Do You Love Yourself?
Written by Mony Singh
Love, Love, Love! We hear this word every day. It's such a sweet word specially to the Western mind, whereas in India a traditional wife or husband has no place for this four letter word in their bio computer as the bond is always there and there is no need to keep on gluing the relationship over and over again with words of love.
In India people spend hours cooking for their loved one's. Here in US people are short of time as a result they make love and most of the times it does not come out good and they have to add honey and sugar to make it little sweeter or serve it with honey pie, sweetie pie and cup cake. If you over hear a western couple talking on the phone, you will notice that it always ends in: I love you.
If the above is not acceptable than love must accompany dozen roses, cards, and expensive jewelry and if all fails and frustration seeps in, one must start all over again.
We all have temptations and with time our temptations turn into infatuations. When our infatuations become addictive we brand them with love. Now our so called love brings lot of insecurity with it and we just want to cling to our love, when clinging starts loosing its grip we legalize our love and brand it with a bigger illusion called Mirage ops! I misspelled the word Marriage and if we don't, it starts evaporating in the heat of insecurity; it's not the fault of love after all we are going through a dark age.
Security is the most important element for love to survive. Now what brings security: Money brings security, power brings security, control brings security and information is one tool that helps us achieve Money, Power and Control. Without information our life will become very unpredictable, more than the unpredictability of the three famous W's i.e. Work, Women and Weather.
In today's society people are obsessed with CAT's. I am not talking about the one which meow's, Purrs and eats cat food but Computers, Automobiles and TV's. We all love computers and as soon as we open our eyes we run straight to our computers to check our email. If our family member gets sick we ask them to go to the doctor but if our computer gets a virus we panic. We are judged by our knowledge of the Internet. The day is not far when people who will not know how to use email or browse the Internet will be considered mentally retarded and must see a psychiatric. Our Love is so passionate for the computers.
By the way my friend found his wife on the Internet. One of my friends who works for AOL told me that now they have AOL messenger gadgets for the refrigerator. Just send a kiss to your wife from work and she can take it right off the refrigerator. It's very true! The three w's WWW (world wide web) have changed everything. You can browse for Love, Work and watch the weather at the same time. Majority is in love with the internet.
Love is everywhere and we cannot escape it. We love movies because they show different angles of love, from gross to subtle we love everything our mind is attracted too. I love you, do you love me, you are my love and the list goes on but do we really know what love is? Or it is another word that is forced into our programming by the society.
Do you love yourself? Just go stand in front of the mirror and look deeply in your eyes, don't blink your eyes or you would be loosing focus. Now start saying, I love you ..(Your name) be as sweet as possible, keep on repeating for 5 minutes while looking into your eyes. If you feel ashamed of taking your own name just say I love you. Just continue: slowly, softly & gently so that you do not hurt the feelings of the person in the mirror.
If you can withstand this simple test for 5 minutes and would like to continue beyond the 5 minute limit and you have enjoyed every moment of it than you must have felt an unknown joy, a sense of worthiness and could have thanked your parents or God for giving you such beautiful eyes and a lovely face.
On the other hand if even for a moment you thought it was illogical and stupid or you started hating yourself and moved away from the mirror even before the five minute limit was over, I can say with 100% guarantee that you are a victim of guilt and hate and love is missing from your life and you do not know what love is.
If you cannot love your own self you cannot love anybody in this world and all your relationships are based on demand and need. I would suggest that you continue the above meditation for at least 40 days for at least 15 minutes a day as this simple therapy will turn your life around for good, than you will not have to seek love, it will come to in all shapes and forms and you will feel blessed, ready to spread love.